Cuckolding refers to a kink or fetish that makes someone take pleasure from watching their partner have sex with someone else. The word itself can be traced back to the cuckoo bird, a species among which females are known to lay their eggs in nests that aren’t their own, thus leaving many of their male counterparts raising chicks that aren’t theirs. When it comes to humans, however, the concept is a bit more complex than that.
Though in the eyes of the general public, cuckolding is still considered taboo, it’s actually far more common than you’d think. According to a survey by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., author of Sex and Psychology, 58% of all men he interviewed had fantasized at least once about watching their partner have sex with other men. With that surprising figure in mind, it’s time to take a look inside the minds of cuckold couples in an effort to better understand the kink’s rise to mainstream popularity.
The Growing Popularity of Cuckolding Explained
Before I explore the reasons behind cuckolding’s growing popularity, I want to set the record straight by noting that, contrary to popular belief, the term “cuckold” isn’t exclusively reserved for men. The desire to see your partner have sex with someone else isn’t specific to gender or sexuality.
At a time when social media has made the public discussion of kinks, fetishes, and sexual desires far more open and inclusive, cuckold couples are being given a platform to share their thoughts and experiences; thus, introducing the practice to a wider audience.
However, if you’ve never felt the want to share your partner with someone else, you might be wondering: “What’s the appeal?”.
As with all other kinks and sexual fantasies, there are several factors (biological and societal) at play here.
- There’s a lot of research backing up the concept of “sperm competition,” which can be interpreted to mean that a man watching his partner have sex with another man will trigger a biological response to have more vigorous sex with that same partner. Though research on women isn’t as conclusive, it’s safe to assume that the same biological triggers apply to them as well.
- Knowing that someone else wants your partner makes you want them even more.
- The term refers to the happiness you feel when you see someone else (your partner) being happy. It’s the exact opposite of jealousy.
- The “taboo” Wanting to do something that’s considered “scandalous” of “forbidden” is a desire almost all of us can relate to.
- Humiliation/Submission. Both can trigger a pleasurable response in people.
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Conclusion
Though many believe cuckolding to be unorthodox, the practice can actually bring a lot of pleasure and fulfillment to those who are intrigued by its premise.
However, it’s also important to note that cuckolding isn’t for everyone. Even if the idea of watching your partner have sex with someone else appeals to you, there are still some drawbacks that need to be considered before going all in. After all, the practice can bring about jealousy, potential damage to the relationship, and social stigma.
With that said, as long as your decision is well-informed, cuckolding might be worth a try.
Sources
- HealthLine: Everything You Need to Know About Cuckolding
- Daily Mail Online: WHAT IS CUCKOLDING AND CAN IT BE GOOD FOR A RELATIONSHIP?
- Yahoo News: What Is Cuckolding? The Meaning of the Fetish Sex Term Some Couples Are Embracing
- Sex and Psychology
- Research Gate: (PDF) Human Sperm Competition
- University of Vermont: The Relationship Between Dominant And Submissive Sexual Fantasies And Behaviors And Sexual Satisfaction
